K.O. Ethan Wins.

When fighting with your partner/spouse, it's great to have in mind that there isn't a right or a wrong person. As long as both of the parties agree that they want to be with each other, nothing else really matters and small little arguments tend to vanish into thin air.

But when things get personal, it's harder to see why you're together with your partner. Everything gets blurred, the haziness sets in, you're lost and exasperation is your only best friend.

Tonight, a similar event occurred that had taken place in my relationship way back when and it was frustrating to see the same thing happen again. To tell this story, I have to start from the beginning, which took place at Red last night...

I had a presentation today with a couple of classmates, a critical approach/psychoanalysis of the movie Mildred Pierce which happens to be one of the best Film Noirs I have seen up to date. There were 4 of us, 3 questions to tackle and during the filming of the movie, 2 were absent, their names were Claudia and Aaron. Aaron Lee is a notorious slacker, who leaches off people's assignments and is a human parasite to those around him. At least I had Cheryl with me and she understood the pain and frustration of trying to organize a meeting between four of us.

So on the phone yesterday night (since I had all of their numbers, I had to phone them), I rang Cheryl and checked up on what she was doing, called Claudia and asked her what she was going to do and when Aaron picked up the phone, I explained to him what he should do. All of us were on track...or so it seems.

I skipped my Globalization lecture today so we could spend some time to work on Mildred Pierce only to have Claudia come an hour late and Aaron show up half an hour before our presentation started. Not only that, all of us were in awe that he spent the whole night doing nothing except print the synopsis of Mildred Pierce from Wikipedia (the most unreliable source in History). We were pissed, not only did he not show up for the screening, he practically did 5 minutes of work and called it a day.

So our presentation came, we helped him out and we all did a fairly excellent job. But Aaron on the other hand left the class and looked upset. I didn't like the way our group treated him and it was clear to me that he was desperately trying to reach out to someone during our talk. So when I left, I sent him a message saying not to feel upset over this and that we still did a great job. He replied me with an apologetic note.

I was having a stressful day. So time to relax, I had dinner with my significant other and we were having a good time until I started to tell him this story. Keep in mind that he was there when I was making the calls to the members of my group. That's when he interrupted me before I could finish my 3rd sentence and told me that I was wrong. I am the one to blame. Because it looks bad that all of us knew what we were doing and that he didn't. Also I should have taken the leadership role. My mates were also to blame as well for Aaron's downfall cause they didn't check up on his work.

I'm sorry, when did I turn into a babysitter? We allocated questions to each other and there wasn't even meant to be a leader but I made the initiative to call them up and check up on them. I made the effort to set up a meeting with all of us and is it MY FAULT that they're late and irresponsible? My role in life isn't similar in any way to Mildred Pierce.

This is where things got personal. He started to lecture me on how I should be during group work despite not even listening to me or even knowing how Aaron Lee works. He immediately sided the slacker instead of me. Fine. You just poked the bear. Hell shall rain upon thee who pokes the bear.

I gave him the silent treatment. He got pissed off that I wouldn't listen to him. Why the hell should I listen to someone who doesn't even bother to let me finish my story and jumps to conclusions?

He sent me home. I slammed his car door. I got really angry at him because he knows that I hate people who don't let me finish and lectures me in an accusing manner. I SMSed my friend T, to tell her that he won't be coming for her party this weekend. Unfortunately HE replied me and said if I didn't want him to go I should tell him directly and that he was being too ambitious by lecturing me (I'm still wondering what that meant). I found out that I had sent the message to the wrong person. One thing lead to another and it was left with me saying that until he learns how to listen to me before spilling his crap all over me, I don't want to hear his voice, speak to him, see him, etc.
And finally I got a message saying, "In other words, does that mean break up?"

Where the fuck did I mention break up? Someone please explain to me.