Cruelty

Being single in Malaysia sometimes isn't a choice, it's more of a lifestyle. I didn't choose to be single. Life just hasn't handed me the right guy to settle down with yet. Handing me potatoes instead of lemons, I just have to deal with the fact that I can't make lemonade with what life has given me; instead I will choose to make mash potatoes.

Choosing to go out with a couple is a choice that I had to choose tonight. Going out with J & H tonight was fun, we used to hang out with each other almost every week but since there were the holidays and traveling involved, plus work on their side we didn't have much time to catch up with each other.

It's difficult being friends with two people who are involved in a relationship. First of all when they are having a fight, they tend to make you choose between both of them. Which one is right? Which one is wrong? No one knows what goes on behind closed doors so why bother choosing a side? So one would choose to either listen to each argument and silently curse the day they were born or ignore the situation all together.

Did I ever do anything that was this cruel to you?

It's a lot more difficult to ignore if the couple is fighting in front of you; it's like watching a mini drama unfold upon your eyes. So watch I did, and I kept quiet. It's different in this scenario since one of them talks to me about their problems and the other one doesn't. I feel bad for one of them, since I peeped through the keyhole of their relationship's door. But being a friend, I choose not to be judgmental over their situation. After all, what are friends for?

I learned my lesson. When faced with this situation where a melodramatic Korean soap drama is happening in front of you, the best thing to do is grab a menu, hunker down and pray for daylight.